Matt B asked:


Hey, I asked this in another area and got a lot of mixed opinions, so I wanted to ask actual parents.

I’m planning on giving my girlfriend of one year a promise ring. There are definite reasons why we aren’t going for an engagement ring: 1.) She doesn’t want to be engaged before she turns 20, and she’ll be a month shy of that… 2.) She still has another year and a half of college left, and I don’t want her mixing school and wedding planning when she can’t handle that, and 3.) I want to be more settled financially before taking that step.

Everyone in my other question seems to be in agreement that it’s not as big of a deal because a promise ring is between her and me. But my question is…. in this situation, would you be more upset if I didn’t say anything to you as a parent about this, or would it be better not to bring it up (because it might create anxiety thinking about having your only daughter one day moving out). Please be honest, I want to do this the RIGHT way.