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Agree or disagree, Spending two months pay on a diamond engagement ring is wasting money? read on?
thx1176 asked:
First off do people still spend two months of pay on a diamond engagement ring and if so why?
second…If it is because of love, isn’t the act of love, devotion, honesty and loyalty the way a male proves his love to the woman he wants to marry?
Or does money buy love?
Could part of the reason for divorces is due to $$$$ in part of having to spend that kind of money on a silly diamond ring?
First off do people still spend two months of pay on a diamond engagement ring and if so why?
second…If it is because of love, isn’t the act of love, devotion, honesty and loyalty the way a male proves his love to the woman he wants to marry?
Or does money buy love?
Could part of the reason for divorces is due to $$$$ in part of having to spend that kind of money on a silly diamond ring?
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15. December 2008 at 10:20 am :
just spend 2 months wages, she will only get upset if u give her a crap 1, think about it if ur with her for 50 years thats not too much per year is it
18. December 2008 at 12:23 am :
As they say diamonds are a girls best friend. So yes people sometimes spend a lot of money on them. Yes this could very easlily equate into two months pay. Ya got it, she wants it, then give it to her.
20. December 2008 at 3:47 pm :
Why spend that much money to begin with, most marriages end in divorce in less than two years, if you marry her and make to your sixth anniversary then spend the money.
21. December 2008 at 1:23 am :
Hey, if you love her and she loves you, and you both know that, she won’t care about some silly ring(of course, try not to buy her a plastic one:)). But you give her an expensive ring to show her how much you appreciate her, because you too feel happy doing this. Of course, ‘expensive’ is variable and depends on your possibilities.
Marriages that end because of $$$.. are either because people marry only for the money, either because one of the two is a total scrooge.
24. December 2008 at 5:29 am :
the question you pose is totally dependent upon your current situation. If your girl would like a nice diamond ring, and you love her then I would say go for the expense
If she is indifferent to it and you are also, then you can get married with cigar bands if you both wish.
What matters most is your love for one another, and your respect for each other, and your wonderful communication style, therefor my best advice for you is talk to your girl about it and listen to her thoughts regarding this matter, because they are absolutely more important than any answer you will get here, unless your girl is posting one of the answers here.
I say give the lady what she wants.
28. December 2008 at 2:12 pm :
am a girl and i never been fasinating with diamonds
i think no need for the diamond ring if love is exist why spending money on nothing..
30. December 2008 at 4:06 am :
I think it’s a huge waste of money that could go to something the couple will actually use in real life like housing or furnishings.
This is just me,however, and while I enjoy sparkly things I prefer having a roof over my head. I know my not needing one made the decision to put a small windfall into a mortgage made it easier for us.
1. January 2009 at 4:12 pm :
There are some new rules due to increase in divorce. Depending on which marriage this is and what you can comfortably afford, it is up to you to decide your budget.
WARNING: If this is the womans first marriage you had better spend the 2 months. Women take this ritual very seriously, you had better also. It’s not about the money it’s about the committment behind the money.
4. January 2009 at 1:55 pm :
Disagree. Wedding rings have an unlimited value and they should be pleasing to both the bride and groom. My husband and I picked out our rings together and they were expensive. But we love the meaning they have. It’s something you can wear the rest of your lives that signifies the bond you have between you. If you’re worrying about how much money you stand to lose, maybe you should reconsider marriage. If you can’t stand money on the woman you love, do you really love her? There should be no limits on anything when it comes to your partner. You sound cynical, doubtful and already planning the divorce - perhaps you need more time to grow up first before you attempt such a huge commitment. Let the girl find someone who really cares about her.
7. January 2009 at 4:17 am :
You buy what you can afford. A diamond is a very cherished item for a girl and a small investment to illustrate it. Guys have their toys that they don’t consider silly. If you love the girl then show it by giving her something that she will treasure for the rest of her life (or as long as the marriage lasts).
7. January 2009 at 2:55 pm :
It really depends on what your woman wants…you may think its silly to spend that kinda money on a ring, but its the ring that she has to wear for the rest of her life. She doesn’t want to be embarassed of her ring. The best thing to do is have her pick out her own ring. If you give her the price parameters and let her pick it out she may end up the happiest. It’s not silly to spend your money on a ring. Now-a-days people judge you by the size of the diamond…it’s a sad fact. Besides, isnb’t your girl worth every penny you spend on that ring? Don’t you wanna see her eyes sparkle as she sees the ring for the first time. I think its worth every penny!
7. January 2009 at 7:47 pm :
Depends on how much you get paid, honestly. After a certain point, it just becomes silly, and wasteful. I’m not going to spend $20k on an engagement ring. That’d just be insane, and meaningless.
I think that guideline more applies if you’re flipping burgers, or something of the sort. Get her a nice ring. Something pretty, and not so cheap that it’ll fall apart. As long as it means something, it’ll be fine. That’s the important part.
8. January 2009 at 1:28 am :
i have heard it is tradition to spend 3 months salary on a ring.
11. January 2009 at 3:45 am :
My fiance and I just got engaged and it was a bit different then typical engagements because me being the female, I proposed to my boyfriend while we were in Paris on vacation. Wanting to buy him a really nice gift (but didn’t think he would go for a ring) I bought him a Birks gold watch. It was really expensive but I let him pick out the one that he wanted so that he would love it forever. He let me pick out my engagement ring and when I found the one that I like the most, it was half the price of his watch.
We are by no means rich…he actually has a minimum wage job and I just started my first decent paying career. My feeling is that price shouldn’t be the issue, it should be the how much the person likes the gift. I’m not big into jewlary but for some reason I was so excited about getting the perfect ring. Every time I look at it I smile and think about how much he loves me and that I can’t wait to marry him.
Just remember that your girlfriend could be wearing the ring for the rest of her life so get something that represents her likes AND symbolizes how much you love her.
Good luck!
13. January 2009 at 6:00 am :
I think that you dont want to spend the money on the ring and are now bad mouthing those who do. It’s a symbol of your love and each person decides how much to spend. It doesn’t mean they love their fiancee any mroe or any less if they spend a huge wad of cash on a ring. It doesn’t make their love any less valid.
To assume that those who spend lots of money on their ring have a higher divorce rate than those that don’t is just stupid.
Don’t make up the rules because you can’t afford a huge diamond. Simply buy what you can afford and be happy with it! Insulting others won’t solve anything and just makes you look petty.
Edit: Anyone else being harassed for disagreeing with this person? THX - if you don’t like the answers, don’t ask a mean spirited question.
13. January 2009 at 6:38 am :
I was recently married, and before he proposed I always said that I didn’t want him to ever waste money on an engagement ring because I’d rather we used the money to start saving up for a house or something like that. BUT….when he proposed and I saw the ring, I loved it, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything!
I don’t think it matters how much you spend on the ring, as long as you think she’ll like it, and you don’t go broke! What is even more important (at least in my opinion) is how you propose. Plan something special that will be memorable for the both of you. If your proposal is well thought out and you’ve thought of all the special details, she’ll be so swept up in the moment she won’t waste any time scrutinizing the size of the diamond.
Something else to consider….not every girl wants a diamond either. If you know she loves a certain stone, she might prefer that, and as an added bonus for you, it may not be as expensive! Trust me…it’s not all about the size of the ring if you two are truly in love.
16. January 2009 at 3:38 pm :
I don;t think spending 2 month’s salary should be a pre-reque for an engagement ring and any girl who thinks so is so crappy (probably uses the word ‘bling’ wayyyyy to much). I think the fact that the guy thought about getting the ring, searched for it, and finally bought it (no matter how much it costs) should be enough for any girl who gets ‘the ring’ (silence from the peanut gallery!). Personaly, I don’t really wear jewelry, but my boyfriend and I have be having ‘the talk’ quite recently. I have told him that I do not need a big, huge ring that costs a ton of money (which we don’t have). He actually bought me a ring for valentine’s day/my birthday the first year we were together. I think it was like $250 give or take, but I loved it then, I love it now, and I told him that was enough and all that I needed.
18. January 2009 at 11:47 am :
One should never spend two months pay as a way of proving their love to someone.
One proves their ,love through the act of love…
19. January 2009 at 10:40 am :
No, do not let the industry decide what you should spend.
You need to get the best ring you can afford! It may be 1 months pay or 12 months pay either way you need to get what fits your budget. Rather you believe it or not engagement rings are important to the girl. She will have to “show it off” when you first become engaged. Dont you want her to feel “proud” of her ring? It really isnt “a silly diamond ring”. Oh yea, and make sure you know what the girl would like. (i.e. she may want a emerald instead of a diamond)
20. January 2009 at 1:27 am :
1) Not a waste of money.
2) My husband could not afford a very expensive engagement ring, so he suprised me five years later with a larger diamond ring. I was very blessed to have a very honest and loving fiance (then) who knew I would appreciate anything he would give me - I am still very blessed, 21 years later, to have a husband that is loving, devoted, honest, loyal and everything else!
3) The engagement ring is a symbol of the commitment you are making to your girl, the wedding ring shows the commitment accomplished - they are symbols that show the rest of the world of your commitment and covenant with the other person.
I have a friend who spent a fortune on an engagement ring for a young woman - everytime she disagreed with him she pulled it off and threw it at him! I bet you can guess that he didn’t marry her…he did love her, but she didn’t value HIM….
4) Money doesn’t buy love - that is superficial and “Hollywood”.
5) Divorces in America occur primarily about disagreement on how money should be earned, saved, spent - NOT on how much an engagement ring costs. If you only make $500 a month, then the ring is only $1000 by your estimates…so it’s all relative.
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