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Should I want a traditional diamond engagement ring or go for something more personally meaningful & different
Twinkle asked:
My boyfriend hints that he wants to marry me. The feeling is mutual. I’ve never been one to follow tradition blindly. I never had the desire to have a big diamond ring on my finger, but I would like a special engagement ring and I would like it to be a surprise. I am a gemini (was born in June), love the colors blue and green, am environmentally conscious (no blood-diamonds for me!) Any suggestions on non-traditional engagement ring styles and how can I let my boyfriend know what I’d like - and still be surprised when he proposes? I want it all!
My boyfriend hints that he wants to marry me. The feeling is mutual. I’ve never been one to follow tradition blindly. I never had the desire to have a big diamond ring on my finger, but I would like a special engagement ring and I would like it to be a surprise. I am a gemini (was born in June), love the colors blue and green, am environmentally conscious (no blood-diamonds for me!) Any suggestions on non-traditional engagement ring styles and how can I let my boyfriend know what I’d like - and still be surprised when he proposes? I want it all!
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30. November 2008 at 8:57 pm :
We talked many times about rings, etc before we were engaged..he knew just what I liked, so when he decided it was time to propose, he went to a jewelery store, told them what I liked and got me a stunning ring! And it was a huge surprise to me!!
4. December 2008 at 3:40 am :
You can go to a jeweler and have something completely unique made for you as simple or as elaborate as you wish made from whatever materials you desire.
Also have you consider a ring tattoo with simples or writings?
6. December 2008 at 7:08 am :
Show him pictures of the kinds of designs you like (give him the pictures if possible), let him know what kind you want (Gold, Platinum, White Gold, etc.), If there’s anything you hate, tell him. Hopefully with those ideas he can find a ring you’ll love.
9. December 2008 at 1:00 am :
we would look through the jewelry ads in the paper and online.
I was actually just trying to get him to buy me a birthstone ring for my birthday, but a couple of months later he proposed with a beautiful 1/2 carat solitaire. Nothing fancy, nothing huge, just what I like!
11. December 2008 at 1:57 am :
I sent my boyfriend pics of what I liked. I have no idea what he’ll end up picking, the styles were very different. I will definitely still be surprised, and I’ll be very happy (and surprised) if he picks my favorite of them all. He’ll be doing the actual shopping and purchasing w/o me.
14. December 2008 at 2:22 am :
To begin with, just because it’s a diamond doesn’t mean it’s a “blood diamond” and traditional doesn’t mean it’s not personally meaningful.
Only you can decide what you want on your finger for the rest of your life. I work with my hands and absolutely love Art Deco settings so diamonds just weren’t an option that made sense for me. My ring is white and blue sapphires. I wanted to keep it pretty nuetral design wise so I wouldn’t have to worry about it clashing with anything later on.
Check out this site if you are into the environment. If you like their designs just pop your boyfriend an email so he can take a look and let him know you want your ring from there, or you like a particular style. He will narrow it down to THE RING so you can still be suprised.
16. December 2008 at 11:48 pm :
Well, let him know the colors you like or give him the option to get your birthstone in the ring. Engagement rings obviously don’t HAVE to be diamonds. I hope you get what you are hoping for! Good luck!
20. December 2008 at 8:47 am :
before we were engaged my finace bought me a ‘promise ring’ that was a purple amethyst and a heart with turquoisey colored opal surrounding it. I had a ring sort of similar, same colors at least, I took him to the store i got it and said “this is where i got this ring….” he actually picked up on the hint, and went back a few days later and picked out something himself.
when i got my engagement it was traditional. but i sent him pictures, and told him what kind of cut i prefered, but that anything that he loved and thought I should have would be great too.
I wear the promise ring on my other hand now, and my engagement ring on my ring finger.
20. December 2008 at 6:33 pm :
My favorite color is blue, and I went for the blue topaz/white gold ring. I get a ton of compliments on it, the blue color is just amazing.
22. December 2008 at 6:29 am :
Many people are opting for non-traditional rings these days. My best friend’s husband designed her an engagement ring with a round cut diamond with a tear drop dark Sapphire on each side. I personally want a yellow diamond. But that will probably be out of the budget of whoever I marry. I’m am completely willing to settle on a Citrine, and I can just say it’s a yellow diamond lol!
It’s your ring, and you will be wearing it for the rest of your life. Pick something that no one else has. If you don’t feel comfortable with openly talking about ring specifics because you want it to be a surprise, maybe talk to one of his siblings or friends and especially you close friends. Tell them some of the thing you really like in a ring. More than likely your BF will try to get the opinions of people close to you, and they’ll be there to supply him the YOUR answers!
25. December 2008 at 12:36 pm :
Well, you could have a nice ring with emeralds and/or sapphires instead of diamonds. Your boyfriend could have one custom-made for you, which is not always insanely expensive; I hope he knows your taste and could therefore find the right one for you.
How to address rings?? That’s difficult. Probably he will approach you or you could ask him how he would like to handle the ring-issue.. This could be a little bit tactless, better ask a good mutual friend or a sister to approach him about that and probably offer assistance in picking a nice ring out.. it is not unusual today that couples go ringshopping together or at least talk about it. If you only let him know in which direction you would like to go you will still be completely surprised about the ring he finally picks…
25. December 2008 at 1:07 pm :
Look for a few rings that you like and have someone tell him if he is ever plans to propose to you that they know those are the rings you like. And hopefully you get somethng you want.
26. December 2008 at 9:20 am :
Engagement rings do not have to be diamonds but they do need to be able to hold up over time if you want to wear them all the time.
Diamonds, sapphires, and rubies are the best choice for durability in precious stones.
Certain gems like opals or pearls, although beautiful, can’t stand up to daily wear.
If you wish you don’t even need to get a stone in your ring at all!
Congratulations and I hope you find a ring you can enjoy.
29. December 2008 at 6:19 am :
You could have a 3 stone ring with a diamond in the middle and sapphires or emeralds on the sides. So that covers both traditional and individual.
Something like this:
29. December 2008 at 7:56 pm :
Just leave it to him to make a choice for you. And there are lots of diamonds which aren’t blood diamonds - such as Canadian polar bear diamonds.
1. January 2009 at 2:24 pm :
it’s your choice…..my partner let me choose my own…
i went with a princess cut pink sapphire with 4 princess cut bezel set diamonds on either side….there was also the same ring as mine but with a blue stone instead of pink…it was beautiful..just leave catalogues in the toilet with the ones you like circled (men are always looking for something to read in the toilet) then he will get an idea about what style and colours you like
also you could read the jewelley catalogues in front of him and show him which ones you like
2. January 2009 at 8:29 pm :
Whatever speaks to your heart is the ring you’ll be most happy with. If a blue or green gemstone ring is just that then so be it. Here are a few examples:
Sapphire:
Aquamarine:
Emerald:
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Blue Topaz and Peridot:
Here are websites regarding conflict free diamonds: